Episode 31
Would You Date Yourself? Red Flags, Green Flags & Real Talk
This episode of Long Overdue starts with a win and doesn't let go of the momentum. Ty Blue walks in fresh off getting his LLC officially approved, and the pride in his voice is the kind that's earned, not performed. He's quick to remind everyone, including himself, that this is just the beginning. That same week, though, his dad ended up in the hospital with a heart attack scare. Ty talks through what it felt like to sit with that fear, and how the experience became something unexpected: a sign that it was time to finally build a real bond with his father. It's a reminder that growth and hard moments often show up in the same breath, and that the timing is rarely convenient.
From there, Mari and Ty dig into this episode's central question: would you date yourself? It's a deceptively simple prompt that opens up an honest conversation about red flags, green flags, and the standards both of them hold themselves to in relationships. They talk about jealousy versus being territorial, codependency versus genuinely enjoying someone's presence, and what it actually means to bring stability and consistency to a partner. Nobody's pretending to have it figured out. That's the point.
The conversation eventually lands on the line that gives this episode its emotional center: it's not who you love, it's who loves you. It's the kind of statement that sounds simple until you've lived the version of love that doesn't get returned the same way you gave it. Ty and Mari sit with that for a moment, talking about what they've learned the hard way about expecting too much, giving too much, or not loving themselves enough to know the difference.
Later, Ty opens up about the kind of person he's trying to become, and it has nothing to do with being right or being tough. He talks about wanting to be kind, even if it means people see him as soft, because he knows firsthand what it means to be on the receiving end of someone else's patience and grace. That kind of honesty is what Long Overdue keeps coming back to: real growth doesn't look impressive, it looks like choosing softness on purpose.
The episode closes on two of its most memorable moments. Mari shares a story about repeating affirmations quietly to herself mid-haircut during a stressful week, and not long after, a walk-in client sits in her chair and becomes a regular on the spot. It's the kind of moment that makes you want to believe in manifesting even if you weren't sure you did before. From there, the conversation turns reflective, with a quote about life being like a train station: some people stay for one stop, some stay for the whole ride, and all of them serve a purpose. Ty gets visibly emotional talking about how far he's come and how grateful he is just to be present for it.
This one covers a lot of ground, from business wins to family scares to the kind of self-reflection that doesn't get talked about enough. If you've ever wondered whether you'd actually want to date yourself, this episode might help you figure out the answer.
